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Tips to Dating Online Safely
Tips to dating online safely
1. Choose the right site. In general, dating sites do not screen their members. So look for a site that has thorough privacy policies to help protect you. Popular sites include Relationships.com, Match and eHarmony.
2. Use anonymity. Most services offer double-blind systems that hide e-mail addresses from messages. Take advantage of these systems. Be sure not to give away your e-mail address in your messages. And of course, don't reveal other identifying information early on.
3. Avoid using your primary e-mail address. Create an e-mail account that you use specifically for online dating. When you eventually start a true relationship, you can leave the e-mail account behind. And your previous dates won't have your primary e-mail address.
4. Insist on recent photos, and many of them. Some online daters forget to update their photos. So it doesn't hurt to ask for a "more recent" photo. In fact, ask for at least five different photos. That can make things difficult for anyone who's using old, false or doctored photos.
5. Take things slowly. Talk on the phone before you think about meeting in person. Remember, profiles and e-mails can be carefully constructed. You'll get a much better representation of the person over the phone. But guard your phone number. If your phone service includes a caller ID blocking feature, use it. Otherwise, you can resort to a public phone. Make yourself difficult to contact should you decide against meeting the person. If the conversation makes you uneasy, move on to other candidates. You don't have to justify your feelings or your decision. But be honest.
6. Meet in person only when you're ready. The decision to meet is a joint decision. You're not obligated to meet anyone if you feel uncomfortable. You have every right to take things at your own pace. It makes no difference how long you've been writing, talking or instant messaging.
7. When you meet, choose a public place. Restaurants, for example, are great. And set a time when others will be around. Tell a friend where you'll be going. Use your own transportation. Don't agree to have the other person pick you up. You should be able to arrive and leave by choice.
8. Be especially cautious about traveling. The prospect of a heavenly match might lead you to another city. Don't compromise your safety. Make your own hotel arrangements and keep them private. If you're flying, get a rental car. No one else should control where or when you can go. And, of course, make sure friends or family know your plans.
9. Watch for bad omens. Don't dismiss telltale signs that something's amiss. Be wary if:
Your date does not match his or her description or photo. Don't be afraid to ask questions or leave the date.
Your date's personality does not match his or her e-mails or phone conversations.
Your date touches you inappropriately. If you're uncomfortable, be honest. If the behavior continues, consider moving on to other prospects.
Your date makes demeaning comments. They could be a signs of underlying frustrations or prejudice. Be especially wary if the comments are gender-related or relate to you in some other way.
10. Trust yourself. If you feel uncomfortable or frightened, trust your feelings. Don't be embarrassed to leave. If that means excusing yourself and slipping away, do it. Don't jeopardize your safety for the sake of good manners.
And one final note: Dont make loans or give money to someone you are dating online. Too many people are taken by these scams.